A mistress confesses: Why I want to sleep with your husband... and why HE wants to sleep with me!

Yesterday afternoon my lover James lay beside me in our hotel bedroom as I massaged his back and listened to the stresses and strains of his week. I've been seeing James - who is 36 and gorgeous - for three months, and I love the way he so clearly appreciates every second of his time with me. 

You see, James - like my last 20 or so dates - is married. And that's just the way I like it.

I love being a mistress - married men make much better lovers than single men. I made a lifestyle decision eight years ago to date only men with wives, and I've never been happier.

I know many people - especially married women - may be horrified, dismissing me as a selfish floozy, but I'm convinced the life I've chosen is far more satisfying than those of wives stuck in dead-end marriages.

This way, I get the best things from a relationship - with none of the domestic drudgery. And the men in my life see me as their chance to escape their mundane lives.

Take James, a solicitor: his wife is desperate for a new kitchen; meanwhile he's worried about redundancy and the pressure of paying the mortgage and private school fees for two children.

It's no wonder being with me is a blissful escape. By the time he left, having made love and enjoyed our chat, he was so much more relaxed.

All my married lovers have been professional and charismatic, including Daniel, 40, a designer, who I've dated for three years, and Paul, 58, an accountant, who I've seen on and off for a year.

To all intents and purposes, they are 'happy' at home with their large houses, children, gym memberships and luxury holidays. But their wives are often wrapped up in raising children and running the home.

These men need something extra in their lives - and that's what I give them. Once they get to know me, they realise I am different from any other mistress. I am not sad, or lonely, and my lifestyle is my choice. I enjoy the intimacy of a relationship, but like my freedom too much to give it all up.

The married men I meet enjoy making me feel special - and I enjoy being thoroughly spoilt. They pay for everything and it's clear I'm their number one.

I'm sure the women would be utterly shocked if they discovered their husbands were seeing me. But if they weren't having an affair with me, it would be someone else.

At least the wives have nothing too much to worry about. Put simply, I am the perfect mistress. We always have safe sex and I am never going to ask their husbands to leave them - because I don't want the sort of humdrum, domestic relationship where both partners take each other for granted.

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